Changing prideful ways isn’t easy for the person who isn’t used to asking for forgiveness. They might mistake saying “sorry” for lowering themselves and loosing their dignity.
Apologizing might seem like a simple act for everyone. In reality, however it’s actual quite complicated and difficult for prideful people to do.
If you want to stop being so prideful, check out our key steps that’ll improve your relationships and help you to feel better about yourself.
1. You didn’t fail
Many times, prideful people often have a very idealized image of themselves that leads them to believe that apologizing will make others see them as a failure.
This false belief makes them avoid asking for forgiveness because they think that upon doing so, they’ll stop being perfect. However, we’re all human beings: we make mistakes and we mess up.
In order to stop being so prideful, we have to accept imperfections, allowing for more flexibility and gentleness with ourselves. You don’t have to demand so much from yourself. Everyone is perfectly imperfect.
2. Be more empathetic
On some occasions, pride can make you less empathetic because it separates you from understanding what others may feel.
However, if you fight against the fear of failure and imperfection and let down your walls, you’ll realize that other people need your apology. In addition, you’ll be able to see yourself reflected in their position.
When somebody makes a mistake, be thankful that they realized it and apologized wholeheartedly to you. It feels really good. Why don’t you try it?
3. Write down your apology
You might not even know how to begin to apologize to someone if you’re not used to it. So, if it helps you find the right words, write down your apology first.
You don’t have to stress yourself out too much. You’ll see that when you let your hand write, it’ll find the right, sincere words and get the message across
You don’t need to go all out, a simple “I’m sorry for how I spoke to you, I was upset at my boss and let it out on you, I’m sorry” is enough.
However, writing down your apology and reflecting on it will let you familiarize yourself with it and help you feel more confident when you need to express it.
4. Let go of the embarrassment
Many times, even after following the previous steps, we find ourselves facing a new barrier that hinders us from freely saying “I’m sorry” because we might feel like we’re going to suffer from doing it.
Embarrassment is one of the most limiting feelings we have that can stop us from doing what we want to do.
This is exactly why in order to changing prideful ways, you need to reflect on this embarrassment. It might be a path that leads you to continual pride or something that you’ve been holding on to from the past.
5. Observe how you feel and how you act
To leave your pride behind, the last step you’ll need to take is to be able to see yourself as a witness of the current situation.
Think about yourself as if you were a friend. What would you tell them? What would you suggest? Would you see apologizing as something impossible to do?
When we adopt a new perspective, a lot of things change. So, try to use what you feel and how you to understand the beliefs and motives that might be stopping you from sincerely apologizing.
You might realize that the limitations that you put on yourself were a result of negative experiences that have long since passed. Now is the moment to learn.
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Are you close to a very prideful person? Are you very prideful? Being conscious of it and facing the fears that flood you when you have to apologize or ask for forgiveness will help you let go of those insecurities.
Everyone has been proud sometime or another. However, the key is knowing how to admit wrongs and saying sorry when we should.
Put yourself in someone’s shows, remember the times when someone’s ask you for forgiveness and act accordingly. You’ll see how good you can feel and how much you’ll learn.