5 Gestures That Happy Couples Do Before Going to Sleep

We all want a lovely, healthy relationship. For this reason, we're going to share the 5 gestures that happy couples do before going to sleep.
5 Gestures That Happy Couples Do Before Going to Sleep

Last update: 01 May, 2021

What is the secret of successful relationships? Small details are some of the gestures that happy couples have. For example, the words they say and what they think and do before going to sleep can be more significant than we imagine.

Given this, it’s worth asking the following question: Do both partners put enough interest in sharing special moments or do they expect them to happen without making even the slightest effort?

5 gestures that happy couples do before going to sleep

Does it seem like the most exciting thing in the last few days has been flipping through the channels on TV? Then check out the following list for inspiration.

1. Talk

Before Going to Sleep

Conversation is one of the most important habits that characterizes healthy couples. It consists only in taking time every day to talk about any topic with your partner.

In this sense, taking this kind of time helps to get to know the other person better and to enjoy the anecdotes and events that they share.

Some basic guidelines to take advantage of this practice would be, among others, the following:

Some basic measures

  • Knowing how to listen to the other person and respect their ideas. Although there may be a difference in opinions, there is space for both.
  • Patience. There’s no need to race ahead to share your own ideas or arguments.
  • Re-live funny, satisfying, happy moments together.

Of course, the ideal thing is to talk about subjects that don’t bring up stress nor cause conflict before going to sleep. However, nor is it about creating a fantasy and avoiding talking about certain critical subjects that are necessary for our growth. Talking often improves the quality of communication, helps to relieve tension and strengthens the bond.

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A couple enjoying one another's company.

2. Leave cellphones and electronic devices aside

Stop for a moment and think: If you’re watching a movie together, reading a book or doing any other activity together, is it really necessary to keep an eye on your cell phone, tablet, or computer?

It’s likely that, when answering the previous question, you’ve noticed the risks that technology entails. It takes us away from the person next to us and diverts our attention from the goals and experiences shared on that occasion.

It doesn’t matter if you’re just in silence or cuddling on the couch. But to fully live that moment, it’ll be more appropriate to put away any electronic device that distracts us.

3. Enjoy each other’s company

Something essential in the life of happy couples is to spend quality time together. The important thing is to take care of the details and be attentive with the other person, at the same time as allowing yourself to be pampered and loved.

To enjoy each other’s company it is important to be creative once in a while to bring some magic to the relationship. 

Planning a date out of the house, enjoying a special meal, proposing a time to just hug each other and be affectionate, playing a board game or even a good videogame together are some options for this purpose.

A man and woman sitting close to one another, holding hands.

4. Make love

We tend to take it for granted that being in a couple means having sex regularly. But, does it really?

Happy couples, on the other hand, take time to disconnect from everything, explore each other, kiss and experience pleasurable intimate encounters. In addition to the physical benefits, what’s crucial for the emotional well-being of both partners is the opportunity to connect with each other, to ‘feel’ each other, and transmit the affection and passion we experience.

5. Express your feelings toward one another

A couple snuggling face to face.

If there’s one nice habit every night before going to sleep, it’s telling your partner that you love them, that they’re important to you, and that you value them. Hearing this little phrase is a meaningful gesture with a more powerful effect than you can imagine.

It’s also possible to write it down or demonstrate it with some simple gesture. Simple acts such as making your partner the tea they like best or cuddling together in bed are, in turn, ways of communicating how we feel.

Will you apply any of these gestures that happy couples have before bedtime?

Far from becoming saturated and losing your personal space, with these keys, the idea’s to take advantage of the best of each other for the benefit of the relationship.

Remember that with very little, you can achieve a lot. Will you put any of these guidelines into practice?



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