4 Reasons and Situations When We Should Not Have Sex

Sex is a lot of fun and helps us feel better about ourselves. That’s why suppressing desire or deciding that we should not have sex for arbitrary reasons is absurd.

However, despite the fact that it can be a very positive experience, it’s also true that everything has a negative side. Sex is not an exception to this. There are certain situations where it’s better to step back and think before you get into it.

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1. When someone is having an affair

Whether you are the one being unfaithful or you have been betrayed, if you consider infidelity as something negative for a couple, you should not go through with it.

Your self esteem will be undermined and you may feel regret with respect to your partner or shame in your own behavior. Additionally, if you’re tolerating a partner’s infidelity without consenting to it, the relationship will be filled with resentment and hate.

That’s why it’s important to lay down all the cards on the table before continuing with the relationship. Perhaps you can talk about an open relationship or find some other solution for it.

The worst thing one can do is hide an affair. From day one, a couple has to be transparent.

There are many people who are incapable of being monogamous. Instead of faking it, the most psychologically healthy path is to be completely honest about it.

2. To Get Affection

Have you ever been emotionally dependent? Did you have a difficult childhood that was lacking in affection? People who have not had a stable family environment often have problems with relationships later in life.

It’s not that you do not like sex, the problem is that you only do it to get the affection that you feel you need so much. It becomes a drug. Any addiction can create dependency and anxiety when you do not get it, which forces you into bad decisions and habits.

This type of situation leads to what we call “emotional dependency.” It can also bring about other undesirable issues, like the aforementioned problem of infidelity. When you’re addicted and your partner fails to provide the affection you need, you may seek it in other people automatically.

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In this case it is necessary to treat the root of the problem without feeding it with doses of sex that will make you feel empty just the same.

Additionally, a person who uses sex to get affection often falls into toxic relationships and does not love, only needs. This can cause much more damage, as the initial problem remains and, in fact, only gets worse.

3. You Are a Sex Addict

Like all addictions, if you are addicted to sex, it’s something negative that must be resolved. This is known as hypersexuality.

Hypersexual people cannot satisfy their need for sex. For this reason, they are usually promiscuous in their pursuit of this pleasure.

This compulsive need can bring immense feelings of guilt, sensations of emptiness, frustration and loss of self esteem.

The addict comes to lose all enjoyment from this aspect of his or her life. Once something becomes a compulsive act, the pleasure in it tends to be lost.

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4. To avoid problems

Have you ever heard that many couples argue while having sex? Many use this as a solution to their problems.

The big lie is that this does not get the desired result. The problems will continue, although they might be hidden behind a gratifying experience for a short while.

If sex comes to mind when having an argument or some difference with your partner, you need to see this as the ineffective solution it is.

It will have long term effects on the relationship, as the moment will arrive when this solution no longer performs its function.

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Have you ever used sex for any of the previously mentioned reasons? Although it might momentarily solve your problems, the consequences that come after are often worse.

It’s important that we do not give in to the sexual impulse when we find ourselves in these situations.

Would you add any other reasons to not have sex to this list?

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