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Complaining: Advice to Help You Stop

You should keep in mind that complaining is getting in your way of advancing and reaching your goals. It weighs you down and makes you settle.
Complaining: Advice to Help You Stop

Last update: 06 March, 2019

Complaining is a habit that many people have. And, it’s very difficult to get rid of.

Why is this? It’s because the idea of being a victim of the circumstances is very tempting.

You don’t make yourself responsible for what happens to you. You don’t take steps in situations that you don’t like and that cause you to complain.

Bad moods, rage, anger, and unhappiness will be a constant factor in your life.

To get out of this spiral of complaints, it’s important to heed these 4 pieces of advice. They will help you to feel better about yourself. And, they help you to keep your head above water when life throws you a curve ball.

1. Goodbye complaining, I’m leaving!


Complaints have a particular characteristic. They are passive. Nothing happens anywhere because of them. Also, they don’t solve anything.

Complaining lets you feel like the victim. You don’t have to do anything to change what’s happening. For instance, when faced with a project that hasn’t moved forward, you complain. However, you can choose another path.

Instead of letting yourself get seduced by complaining, you can take control of all of these thoughts and feelings that overwhelm you. Then, you can use them to springboard you down another path. Or, you can use them to learn from what you’ve done.

You can’t stay quiet in front of a situation that has affected you or hasn’t gone like you expected. Dreaming is free, but making your dreams a reality is very expensive.

Stop complaining so much and get to work. This is the moment to get rid of those negative thoughts. Today is the day to start acting.

2. Never deny what is happening to you

People tend to reject what happens to them when they don’t like it. This is the easiest path that leads to complaints.

However, there are situations that you can change. For instance, the fact that you’ve made a mistake in the past is something impossible to change.

Are you going to keep moaning and complaining about it? Are you going to keep going on in the present thinking of a past that you can’t change?

Doing this is a waste of time and energy. You could be using this time for something much more useful.

Learn to accept what’s happening to you. You can learn a lesson from everything to better yourself. You only have to step a little out of your comfort zone. Are you ready to start?

3. Be brave, be responsible

The spiral of complaints prevents you from being responsible for what happens to you. It’s much easier to blame others for your misfortune.

Unfortunately, most of the things that happen to you are your responsibility. Even though others act poorly toward you, it’s your decision to let this keep happening or to start down a different path.

This doesn’t mean trying to change others. It also doesn’t mean abandoning your beliefs when a family member dies or when you suffer bankruptcy.

You can’t blame others for what happens to you. This is because life doesn’t target certain people. Things happen for a reason. You have to accept that.

You should be accountable for your actions. And, you need to act intelligently when facing things that can’t be changed. You need to be courageous enough to face any difficulty that affects you.

4. Interact with the complaint

How does it make you feel when you complain about everything? Good or bad? It’s very likely that it doesn’t make you feel very good. This even happens if you’re using it to manipulate others.

When complaints show up in your thoughts, you need to take measures against them. One of them is to talk them through. Ask why it’s there and figure out why it’s doing what it’s doing.

You need to deal with anger, rage, envy, and many other emotions that cause your day-to-day problems.

You might discover that you complain to get attention. Or, it could be that you need to blame others because you don’t want to be held responsible for your decisions.  Maybe you use it to manipulate others because you need to be in control.

Whatever the motivation you have for complaining, it’s important you’re aware that this mindset shouldn’t last for a long time.

This will only weaken you. It’ll make you a victim and passive in the face of tough situations. This is especially true of the times that you have in your control that take a new direction. This is all a question of changing your perspective

Are you prepared to say goodbye to unproductive complaints?

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