Much of the advice that we are given today to be happy is not new. Rather, it comes from ancient wisdom.
That wisdom which seems to have been consigned to ancient times, but that curiously we still need to bring to the current world, because we haven’t yet managed to internalize all that it tries to teach us.
In this blog, we’re going to reveal 3 secrets of ancient wisdom that are very important to put into practice from today onward.
After all, if the ancient sages applied them, it must have been for good reason.
Secrets of ancient wisdom to put into practice
1. Control only that which you can control and ignore the rest
The first of the secrets of ancient wisdom is very important. How often do we want to control things that aren’t in our hands?
Faced with a problem that devastates us or a worry that keeps us on edge, it’s important to ask ourselves if there’s anything we can do about it.
The stoics said: “Can I do anything about this problem? If I can, then I will take action; if not, then I will accept it.”
However, we never act so wisely. We run into the same wall time and time again, exhausting ourselves, undermining our self-esteem and becoming anxious.
We can’t always control everything, because there are things that just happen, and that’s OK. Accepting this will free us of a huge load, because we sometimes want to take on responsibility for things we can’t control.
Sometimes this is the result of a fear, of insecurities or of any other problem that prevents us from letting go.
Let’s let ourselves flow It’s time to accept and not be blinded by that which we know we cannot control. The best things happen when we learn to let go of control.
2. Accept and stop denying
Acceptance is one of the hardest things in life, because this sometimes means we need to stop taking on the role of victim.
When we don’t accept an illness, a situation, or a period in our life when things aren’t going so well, we begin to deny what’s happening and to rebel against it.
This situation is as absurd as seeing that it’s raining and denying it or rebelling against it. Do we gain anything? Can we change the situation? The answer is an outright “no”, and our only option is to accept what is happening.
Why does this denial of reality happen? It happens because of our expectations and what we consider to be good luck or bad luck.
All of this makes us suffer and resist, which is useless. We are not victims; the world is not against us. Things just happen.
Accept what you can’t change. Doing the opposite, according to the stoics, is wasting a vast proportion of our energy.
3. You are responsible for your life
The third secret of ancient wisdom is very important to eliminate blame from our lives. After all, we tend to blame our parents for how they raised us, but we’re adults now.
As Seneca said: “We say that it was not in our power to choose our parents, that they were given to us by chance. But we can choose what kind of children we would like to be“.
Looking back and regretting all that has happened will not help us. It’s a way of making excuses for our passivity towards the difficulties that are affecting us in the current moment.
However, we’re adults now. We have the power to switch onto a different path from that of our parents. Now, we are the ones responsible for our own lives, no one else.
So what are you waiting for?
Today is the day to start letting go of control over that which you can’t do anything about, to accept situations as they are, and to start taking the helm of your own life.
Falling into obsession, denial and blame will only bring unhappiness.
Before you go, don’t miss: Live in the Present, Not the Past
Images: Christian Schloe