Having a Son is a Treasure
A son is a treasure for any mother and father, who will see themselves reflected in this new life. They will strive to give the world a brave young man who is happy and prepared to make others happy as well.
All children are precious and valuable, whether they are boys or girls, and we should love them and teach them alike.
Nevertheless, a little boy’s character can sometimes be very different, and it typically demands more time for us to consider.
Children are never carbon copies of their parents. They have their own character and voice, and you must learn to guide them to be responsible, mature, and happy.
Let’s find out how.
Having a son: challenges and strategies for education
We want to reiterate again that you shouldn’t fall into gender stereotypes – the education of boys and girls should be carried out equally.
The tips we want to highlight today depend on the needs of each child, but they do include some basic tools that can help and guide you.
Don’t teach him to be the strongest, the smartest, or the bravest. Teach him to be “himself”
One mistake that many families make is falling into stereotypes of sex and gender that we mentioned above.
- Some people will want their son to be the best football player, the smartest in the class, or the most daring with the greatest number of friends. That’s not a good tactic.
- Do with your son what you would with your daughter: let him be what he chooses for himself, let him do what he wants to do with his free time, and allow him to design the dreams he wants to achieve.
- You don’t need to point your son toward a particular sport if he’s not interested or doesn’t like it.
Understand your child and remember that he isn’t a miniature copy of yourself.
You can teach him about the things that you like, you can guide him toward certain interests, and you can expose him to certain things, but don’t impose something on him that he doesn’t want.
A son also has the right to be sad
Sons aren’t born being stronger than daughters, nor are they invincible. Another mistake that some parents may make is telling their son, “Don’t cry, you’re a man and you have to be strong without shedding a tear.”
- Boys, just like girls, need to vent their emotions. Let them cry if they need to.
- It’s important that you encourage adequate emotional communication in your son. Try to establish a relationship of trust from the outset.
- Never make fun of the things that they tell you, and that includes their ideas, dreams, emotions, or desires. If your son sees that you criticize or mock him, he’s likely to stop trusting you.
See also “The dangers of repressed emotions“
A son will seek his space early on
Sons tend to vacillate between the need for attachment and pampering, and the extreme desire to be left alone to exercise their rights and freedom. This is something that will happen early.
- You must be patient and maintain your bargaining power. Sons will respond in a negative manner to a simple ban on something, so you’ll have to persuade them to understand why they can’t do certain things yet.
- It’s also important to teach your son how to accept responsibility if he’s requesting more space or certain rights.
- That’s why, just as you would with a daughter, you need to give him responsibilities starting when he is very young.
There are certain tasks and responsibilities that he must be held accountable for, including keeping his room clean, helping out with the house cleaning, taking care of the pets, or caring for his things.
To conclude, having a son is both a treasure and a challenge. His education will be based on your understanding of his needs and good emotional communication. This will help him always trust you.
Respecting who he is and what he likes on a daily basis will provide a good example for him to follow as he achieves independence and becomes mature enough to fight for his dreams, while knowing you’ll be there to support him every day of his life.
As mothers and fathers we love both our sons and daughters equally, and must educate them both to have the same rights and responsibilities. It’s incredibly important.